Wednesday, May 16, 2007

The Handwriting on the Wall

I've always thought handwriting analysis was cool. Don't ask me why, I just think it is. The idea of being able to tell about a person by how they cross their T's and dot their I's is interesting to me.

So as I doodled my name on the margins of my notebook during a recent meeting, I decided I'd find out what my handwriting said about me. A quick search yielded this site, which gave me a pretty comprehensive analysis after I completed a block of sample text.

According to the site, here's what my handwriting had to say about me. My thoughts are in bold.

  • T. has a particular shyness toward people and a fear of moving too fast in any direction. I'm an analyzer and I'm indecisive.
  • T. has a healthy imagination and displays a fair amount of trust. She lets new people into her circle of friends. She uses her imagination to understand new ideas, things, and people. I'm pretty cool with everyone and I like making new friends.
  • Something is incomplete in T.'s life. Somewhere in her life there is some disappointment, non-fulfillment, and interruption. Hmmm - I don't know.
  • T. is very self-sufficient. She is trying not to need anyone. She is capable of making it on her own. She probably wants and enjoys people, but she doesn't "need" them. She can be a loner. I'm working on this though. However, I do enjoy my alone time. People can be irritating at times.
  • T. is sarcastic. This is a defense mechanism designed to protect her ego when she feels hurt. She pokes people harder than she gets poked. These sarcastic remarks can be very funny. They can also be harsh, bitter, and caustic at the same time. Me? Sarcastic? Never. Funny, my sarcasm did begin as a defense mechanism when I was in high school.
  • T. is a practical person whose goals are planned, practical, and down to earth. T. basically feels good about herself. She has a positive self-esteem which contributes to her success. She feels she has the ability to achieve anything she sets her mind to. However, she sets her goals using practicality-- not too "out of reach". She has enough self-confidence to leave a bad situation, yet, she will not take great risks, as they relate to her goals. A good esteem is one key to a happy life. Although there is room for improvement in the confidence category, her self-perception is better than average. Yay for being goal-oriented and having a high self-esteem!
  • In reference to T.'s mental abilities, she has a very investigating and creating mind. She investigates projects rapidly because she is curious about many things. She gets involved in many projects that seem good at the beginning, but she soon must slow down and look at all the angles. She probably gets too many things going at once. She has the best of two kinds of minds. One is the quick investigating mind. The other is the creative mind. Her mind thinks quick and rapidly in the investigative mode. She can learn quicker, investigate more, and think faster. T. can then switch into her low gear. When she is in the slower mode, she can be creative, remember longer and stack facts in a logical manner. She is more logical this way and can climb mental mountains with a much better grip. Well, I am a reporter; both skills are required. And I do synthesize well, if I do say so myself.
  • T. is secretive. She has secrets which she does not wish to share with others. She intentionally conceals things about herself. She has a private side that she intends to keep that way, especially concerning certain events in her past. Nigs don't need to know every detail about me. They need to get some business of their own. Shoot.
  • T. is moderately outgoing. Her emotions are stirred by sympathy and heart rendering stories. In fact, she can be kind, friendly, affectionate and considerate of others. She has the ability to put herself into the other person's shoes. T. will be somewhat moody, with highs and lows. Sometimes she will be happy, the next day she might be sad. She has the unique ability to get along equally well with what psychology calls introverts and extroverts. This is because she is in between. Psychology calls T. an ambivert. She understands the needs of both types. I've been known to be "wild and wacky" to a point. I always stop short of looking ignorant. But I'm willing to cut loose.
  • People that write very large tend to be very social and friendly. It seems T. has this type of writing. This indicates a need for people and a particular natural ability to socialize and be the life of the party. Now, if T. also has specific fears (like fear of criticism or fear of trust) then she will deny she is the life of the party, because fear has overcome her natural inclination to be social. People with large handwriting tend to be effective at anything that requires interaction with lots of people. she is a people person. I'm not the life of the party, but I can help foster a good party environment for others. Dang, I wonder what I'm afraid of? Maybe seeming conceited? Who knows?
  • T. can be defiant. She sometimes has the attitude that if someone doesn't like it the way she is doing it, then they can just "go to hell!" This trait may reveal itself in a rebellious nature that is always ready to resist forces which she thinks are infringing upon her freedom of action. I prefer the phrase "kick rocks," but I guess it all means the same.
  • T. has a desire for attention. People around T. will notice this need. She may fulfill this need by a variety of ways depending on her own character. Well, I do dance and sing in front of a crowd of hundreds for fun. And I have a job where thousands read my name on a daily basis. And I keep an online journal of my life adventures. Hm. They may just be on to something here. :-)

Dang. Pretty on point, I'd say. What do you think? Accurate or no?

Nah, seriously?

One of my coworkers told me I was looking pale these days and needed a tan.

*crickets*

Now, before you ask, yes, this coworker is black and yes, she is lighter than me.

I didn't really know how to respond. I mean, even in the dead of winter, I'm a good shade of mocha (my makeup compact tells me so). When summertime comes around, not to brag, but I glow - not burn.

But why when she said that did I feel she was trying to play me?

Maybe I'll go stand beneath some fluorescent lights for a bit. Get a little bit of color going on.

Side note: I'm so glad I'm black. I don't have to worry about tanning and what have you. I'm always a nice shade of bronze. Gotta love melanin.

Monday, May 14, 2007

Whatup doe?

I haven't posted in a while...12 days to be exact. It feels like the stretches between my posts keep getting longer and longer. Hmph. Like J sometimes says, maybe it's because I just don't have anything to say.

So I guess I'll tell you what's been going on in the two weeks since I last posted.


I'm thinking ya'll haven't had a good new picture of me in a while.


I decided to rectify that. A variation from the photoshoot I had in my car outside of my Town Council meeting. My favorite is my profile pic on Facebook. Check me out.

I'm on my way to being debt free.

I paid off my Sam's Club card the other day. It was such a good feeling. Now, I only owe on my American Express and my Bank of America. My Bank of America will be easy to handle, I just need to take it out of my purse so I won't think to use it when I can't find my debit card. The Amex, a little trickier, but slow and steady will win the race.

I've decided to buy a house.

I met with a realtor today to talk about my options. I've been in RI for 18 months, paying rent for each and every one of them. That means that by the time I reach my two year mark, i will have paid $16,200 in rent and what do I have to show for it.

Not a single thing.

So, I was talking to a friend of mine (read: my only friend in Providence) and we decided we're going to buy a house together. Before you go telling me not to, stop. She's trustworthy, dependable and has good credit. Plus, we're getting a two family house, so we'll have our privacy. The goal is to be in a place by October, when my lease on my apartment runs out. So, for those of you who are thinking of getting me housewarming gifts (and trust, a housewarming party will be in effect soon after I close on my house), birthday presents or just thinking of you type presents, I need cash. Closing costs, down payments and taxes will be no joke. Help a sister build her wealth. Your heart will thank you (as will I).

I'm a mentor.

I've been mentoring my mentee for a few weeks now. She's great. Shy, but great. When we first met, I asked her what she wanted from our relationship. You know what she said? For me to teach her to be more confident and assertive. Bless her heart. For those who knew me when and know me know, ya'll know I know a little something about growing into your confidence and asserting yourself.

But it's crazy because how do you teach that? Any suggestions are welcome.

In the meantime, I gave her assignments. They have speakers every Friday who come in to talk about their lives (I'm speaking on June 24 - get like me). I told her that she is to introduce herself to the speaker each Friday, get their card and have a small conversation with them. I told her to do this because she kept talking about the executives who would come in to speak and how they were so much better than her. I told her they grocery shop, use the bathroom and put their pants on one leg at a time just like she did. I'm trying to get her to see that she is just as important and valuable as they are, regardless of her bank account.

Last week, we went to a play at the Black Repertory Theatre, which was very festive. I wanted to go out for sushi with her, but she said she didn't like it. I may have to break her from that unless she gives me a good reason. I mean, who doesn't like sushi?!

I make a fantastic lasagna.

I had a late day last week so I decided to make a lasagna. I bought all of the stuff and got to assembling. I used turkey meat, some red pepper flakes and a little bit of nutmeg in addition to other seasonings. I folded in some chopped spinach in the cheese mixture, hit it with a generous helping of mozzarella and BAM! I had a fantastic lasagna. I even let my Italian coworker taste it. Her words: "T-Dot, I'm the one who's Italian. How did you make this so good?"

Throw the hot dogs away: the foodie is back.

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

This I Believe

My Local NPR radio station does this thing called "This I believe: Rhode Island." It's essentially people calling or writing in and telling the station what they believe in.

After hearing the latest installment, I've decided that there are some things that I believe strongly in that I'd like to share with you. This may become a regular feature, but I'm not making promises.

So, to kick things off, here are just a few things that I believe, fundamentally. Enjoy.

This I believe: T-Dot....

...Comb overs for men should be outlawed.

...Every adult should have access to crayons and a coloring book -- and should use them. They are much healthier than drowning your sorrows in alcohol, drugs or sex.

...Hot dog buns should be free with any hot dog purchase.

...Everyone should have to use food stamps (not an EBT card) at least once in their lives so they will think twice before they start blasting those on welfare. You don't know their struggles.

...People are intrinsically good, generally truthful, and innocent until proven guilty. This belief has sometimes made me question my decision to become a journalist.

...Life would be much cooler if it was a musical. Think about it: This moment right now would be accompanied by snappy music and choreographed dance. How much cooler would that make reading this blog?